I recently did an interview for a colleague of mine. During the interview, she asked the question, “What would you say to people who are nervous or embarrassed about reaching out for coaching?”, and that sparked the idea to write about it in a blog.
So, what would I say to someone who was nervous or embarrassed to reach out for coaching (or counseling, or any other similar service)?
If you are one of these people, please know, you are not the only one! I have found through the last few years of my own journey (that lead me to become a Life Coach), that many people have these same feelings, as well as fears! And I will be the first to admit that I was one of those people.
It was maybe 5 years ago that I really start thinking about seeking help from a professional. That’s where it starts, just thinking or admitting that you need help beyond what you can do for yourself. Then it goes through the different stages. First the idea comes across your mind, then you might start the researching stage. Here you might start googling “What is a life coach?” or “What does it mean to have a life coach?”. Then after learning about what a Life Coach is, you might start looking into where you can find one, or how much it costs. Once you’ve felt comfortable with the idea of reaching out to a Life Coach for a consultation, you’ve now moved into the next stage of acting on it. Here is where you will come to find what it means for you and how beneficial utilizing a coach can help you move forward.
But with all that said, there may be reasons why you haven’t reached out to a Life Coach yet.
One reason I suggested in the interview is that our society has placed a stigma on reaching out for help, whether it be a life coach, counselor, or other mental health service. People like to point their finger at someone else to shame them for needing help, that they are not able to help themselves, that they are weak, or less than. But that is far from the truth!!! I have never met someone who has sought out services to be weak, but strong!! It takes strength to seek help, to overcome obstacles, especially ones that have been holding you back for years! There is no shame! If we are all to be honest, everyone could benefit from utilizing a service such as Life Coaching! Life Coaches need Life Coaches. Counselors need Counselors. We are not meant to live this life alone. We all need a partner, whether it be a spouse, friend, or Life Coach.
(Life Coaches on the other hand can provide another level of support that a spouse or friend can’t necessarily provide.) Seeking a Life Coach provides you with encouragement, accountability, helping you uncover parts within yourself that you didn’t realize you had the ability to do. I never thought I’d be in the place I am today without the help of a Life Coach, and I’m thankful for that partnership every day!
There are other reasons you may not feel ready to reach out and seek a Life Coach, such as fear, time, money, pride, etc. Are there reasons you haven’t? They are all valid reasons, but until we decide to take that next step out in faith, out of our comfort zones, humble ourselves, make the time, or prioritize what is most important for yourself, we may never find ourselves fully living our lives how we were meant to. Is a Life Coach right for you?
So, what would I say to someone who was nervous or embarrassed to reach out for coaching? Do what is best for you. Do not worry about someone might think or say. It is your life, and you would be better off to do what you know feels right for you. Go for it, rise above it!
If you’ve reached the stage of being ready to reach out for a Life Coach, or maybe you aren’t there yet, but have some questions or reservations, please feel free to contact me! There will be no pressure to commit.
Check out my full website. You can learn about me on my about me page to answer some of your questions about me. You can also find different ways to contact me on my contact page. I also put the link straight to the form for your consultation or to ask questions.